Subject: Re: Question for LGBTQ+++ advocates
are they/ is (s)he gay or straight?

That isn't a relevant question, because you're using an either/or set of options to apply to a situation that is increasingly recognized as far more complex, individual, and uncompartmentalizable.

Such a person is considered gender fluid, and where they stand on the spectrum is a combination of how they experience themselves overall and specific circumstances or experiences.